I don’t fully agree with people who say they don’t care about what people think about them. I’ve gone through both phases in my life, one that cared a lot about opinions and one that didn’t. None of them were very beneficial to me, but the period where I didn’t care was the least successful phase in my life, but more about that later.
Today I’ve found a healthy balance, where I have understood the importance of sending the right message across to others. I take into account how I want to portray myself and what I will reap as a result.
It’s natural for us to communicate to one and another in this way. We make assessments and judgements all the time to arrive at a conclusion. We can read our environment in a fraction of a second thanks to our brain processing the information in this “judging” way.
The same goes for how we read each other. We come to all sorts of conclusions within the first 10 seconds of meeting someone. It’s fully normal that we build an impression of one and other this way and it’s not something we can change.
How we look is, therefore, a tool of communication. The emphasis is not on how good you look, it’s on how your looks position you. There is no right and wrong, but you must decide what statement you wish to make. It’s up to you to use this form of communication wisely. If you dress like a classy, feminine and refined lady then people might think you are one and treat you accordingly. It will ultimately help better your life.
This is why I care about what people think. I don’t get hung up on it or let it control me, but I take my messaging into account. I know that I will never be liked or approved by everyone, but that’s not the point. The point is to feel that my looks are a fair representation of myself and who I am. Not everyone will get my message, but many will judge me according to how I position myself. The power is in my hands.
When I had an attitude of “not caring” about what people thought and dressed in ways that were not beneficial to me, there was no positive outcome. Some people don’t mind these effects and continue to not care. I learned quickly that I can’t change the human brain and how it functions, so it’s better to learn how to make it work to my own benefit instead. I changed my attitude and my life and lifestyle improved as a result.
I see far too many ladies who make the mistake of not taking into account what overall message they send out to the world. As an addition, they rarely seem to understand why they have no success in specific areas of life. How you dress is so important! If you want to be treated like a high-value woman, then dress like one. Who is the lady you want to become? Is she refined? Does she have good etiquette and manners? Does she always look elegant? Whatever she looks like, try and emulate that.
So what do your clothes say about you?
Think about this everytime you get dressed from now on.
When you go shopping and buy something new, ask yourself if this garment is aligned with the message you wish to send out to others.
How do you want to position yourself?
What category do you want people to file you under?
You can pick and choose. The selection is endless!
What goals do you have in your life?
How can your looks communicate the right message so that they end up benefiting your goals?
How are your looks aligned with your personality?
The most important thing is to be yourself after all…
Some of the benefits I’ve noticed:
- You attract more quality, high-value men if you are single
- You reap more success in your professional life
- You find it easier to make new connections
- Your reputation grows, and you will get more opportunities
- Life is generally treating you better!
Your looks communicate a message. Be clever in life. I’m all for goal setting, and I want all my readers to succeed with their dreams!