Once in a while I like to touch on this provocative topic about gold diggers and money oriented women. It would be strange not to bring it up since my blog is about Jetset Babes – girls who surround themselves in wealth. My previous post on this topic.
I have over the years changed opinion, as I started off like everyone else thinking gold diggers are bad people who suffer from low intelligence. The way men have always spoken badly about money oriented women, I was sure to speak poorly of them too.
Who is actually a gold digger?
People seem to have various definitions of it.
For some, a girl is a gold digger just because she hangs around rich people, for others she is a gold digger if she doesn’t split the dinner bill when she is out on a date.
I think as a general rule, the word gold digger means someone who is interested in meeting a wealthy man so that she can benefit from him.
Men started this topic to bully women
I will defend women who take the mans status and wealth in to consideration when choosing a partner.
I think it’s unfair that there is a trend in society which says that women who care about the finances of a man, should be labelled as gold diggers and seen as bad people.
Because you know what actually makes me annoyed?
Insecure men started this trend of talking bad about women who take wealth & status in to consideration when choosing a partner. If we look today on who it is that complain the most, it’s actually the “loser” guys who don’t have much to offer to the table. Because of their insecurities they want to bring women down so they feel better about themselves.
Sadly, other females join the bullying club and do the same to their competition instead of backing each other up like true sisters. Insecure men and competing women are the ones who keep the gold digger judgement alive.
But what about sex-obsessed men?
Second thing that really annoys me, is that it’s very tabu for a woman to choose a partner because of status & wealth, but it’s not tabu for a man to choose a woman based only on his interest in having sex with her. Wtf?!
If you think about it, men and women are different species. We have totally different genetic code and we are programmed to act and think differently for many complex reasons. Men get away with SO MUCH. They get away by being extremely superficial and judgemental characters who have only one thing in mind: SEX.
But as soon as a woman is open with her interest in financial security then she is looked upon like a bad person.
If we would speak to the extreme, why can men treat women as sex-objects but god forbid if a woman would treat a man like a wallet??? It’s the same thing but different.
Science proof our genetic code
There has been many years of science done on the male and female brain. Both scientific studies have been compared and we can clearly see that we have millions of years of genetic programming in our DNA. It’s something we actually have little or no control over and this programming is there for complex but valid reasons.
Here are some quotes from the book “The Female Brain” that I read on my kindle.
A woman has a limited amount of eggs of which can get impregnated. Of course she needs to be cautious with whom she gets inseminated by. She needs to choose a man who is in good condition so she can get healthy children, but also someone who can provide for her and her offspring when she is vulnerable after a pregnancy and not able to hunt down resources.
These are our basic instincts.
However because we live in an era of materialism, these instincts have moved away to a whole new level – hence gold digger became such a bad term.
What I’m trying to say is, combine our genetic programming together with the modern materialistic world that we live in today – and of course many women become very money oriented, but that’s because we live in a money oriented society.
I think it’s time to take science in to consideration. Society has to be more understanding to who we really are and how we are built. I want to stand up for women and I think it’s time for us women to empower each other instead of pushing each other down by joining the male bullies.
This is the same as calling other women (who like sex) for sluts. Why do we do this, seriously? I don’t want to call other women gold diggers because I understand now where it all comes from. Don’t be so judgemental, don’t be so hard on others.
But of course, there is always going to be extremes. The same way I don’t think there is anything good with a man who is treating women as sex-objects, I don’t think women should treat men as wallets either. Using people is not cool, so sex or money hunters of that extreme is not okay in my personal opinion.
With this post I’m not trying to say that women should now only rely on men in terms of finances etc and not become independent by accumulating their own wealth.
Of course not! I think we need more women in power who are financially strong as the world is already extremely male dominated.
BUT, not every woman wants that in life. There are types of women who want the man to take care of everything related to money so that she can focus on other things like family, home etc. What’s wrong with that?
It would be great if this world could get a little bit more humble. We need peace, love and understanding – NOT bullying, judging and constant negative talk about one and another.
Why do you think beautiful women go for wealthy men?
Because they know they can.
Women want to be comfortable, they want to create the best possible life for themselves. If they can get any man in this world, why look for someone who cannot provide anything to them? Love is possible to find in any human being, rich or poor. For that reason focusing the search in the wealthy department is only a strategy in to achieving what you know you have the capacity for.
You don’t need to agree with my opinions, but I think each and everyone should have an extra think next time they bash girls off as gold diggers.