The Basic guide to Etiquette
If you’re planning to surround yourself with high class people in extravagant venues, you’d probably like to fit in and act accordingly. I believe having manners & etiquette is something everyone should adapt to, no matter class or with whom you hang out with. It’s simply common courtesy.
Going to fancy places will require some extra thought to it if – remember the movie Pretty woman and how she had to learn it the heard way? Nobody wants to be seen as this complete slouch when you can be a well carried graceful lady with style. You’d like the right type of attention after all.
Basic principles to Etiquette:
- Don’t slouch – Work on your posture! Imitate how the elegant ladies in the 50’s were carrying them selves. Think Audrey Hepburn. Sit with your back straight and walk gracefully. I’ve had men giving me compliments many time for my posture, they actually pay more attention then we think!
- Mind your language & how loud you speak – Nobody want’s to listen to swearing, slang and if someone is almost shouting when they are speaking. Annoying and extremely rude.
- Be polite to everyone – Be grateful and thank people as often as you can. This includes staff, be never bitchy & always appreciate what they’re doing for you. A thank you with a genuine smile can mean so much to someone and it’s not really that much effort from your end.
- Smile & send out positive energy – Being bitchy, arrogant, rude, looking bored etc is a sign of bad manners. Even if you’re stuck with someone who is boring you to bits, it’s not polite to express your true emotions by this type of behaviour. Excuse yourself with a smile & avoid this person, but never throw anything in someones face because how would you feel if that was made back at you?
- Do not have monologues – Sitting and just talking about yourself, not caring for anyone else is selfish and rude. Be interested in other people by asking questions and share your life stories once in a while – just not all the time.
- Be punctual – One of the most disrespectful things some girls tend to do is not valuing other peoples time by always being late. It’s extremely ignorant and shows no respect. Once in a while is understandable as there are times when other aspects causes delay for us, but taking it as a habit to come as you please is simply not cool. Learn time management!
- If you’re a guest and invited over to someones house, always bring a gift even if it’s a casual gathering. A bottle of wine or maybe a desert?
How to act at a dinner table:
- Never put your elbows on the table.
- Never do your make up / freshen up. Go to the bathroom even if you just need to add some lipgloss.
- Never speak with you mouth full, Chew with your mouth open, make noise when you eat etc.
- Always turn away from the table in case you need to sneeze or cough, always excuse yourself.
- Never use your own knife if you need to cut some butter that is standing on the table.
- Bones, skin etc should not be put on the side of your plate, discretely put them in a napkin.
- If you find a hair in your food don’t make a big deal out of it. Tell the waiter discretely about it.
- Eat your food without making a mess. Eat slowly & controlled.
- Always drink from the same spot of your glass so you not end up with lip marks all over.
- Never pick your teeth at the table. Go to the bathroom if something is stuck.
- Never introduce disgusting or unpleasant topics for conversation.
- Wait until everyone has been served before you start eating & let the host give a sign of “let’s eat” before you dig in.
- Never lean over & or stretch for something in front of a person. Ask politely “excuse me, would you please pass the salt” instead of reaching for it.
- Break small pieces from your bread and eat it instead of putting the entire roll to your mouth. Looks more elegant, easier to eat & makes less of a mess.
- Mobiles, keys, lip gloss etc should not be on the table. Checking your phone often shows bad manners. Put it away when you’re at a dinner.
- When you are asking for something, use “May I have….” instead of “Can I have….”
- Check discretely if you have something in your teeth after each meal. Preferably in the bathroom.
- Never wave over a waiter or shout to be heard. Always say “Excuse me…”
- Always thank the host for the dinner even if you didn’t enjoy the food. Smile & be polite!