Reasons Why a Man Should Pay for a Woman

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Through quite some time I have been researching the reasons behind the differences between men and women. There are all kinds of books, trainings and techniques to help us better understand each other.

However, more often than not I hear my girlfriends complaining that their men don’t hear, understand or speak the “language” of a woman. And in return, they might mistreat their men. So how do we stop the vicious circle?

If we are talking about basic instincts, we can look at a relationship in the following way. For a man, the physical desire almost always comes first and he subconsciously has the drive to impregnate as many females as possible. For the male, beautiful and desirable woman is basically the same thing.

Therefore, females try to look more beautiful and healthier to become more desirable. Women often exaggerate their hips, which give a subconscious message of an excellent child-bearing structure, and their breasts, as a signal of a woman in good health capable of successfully bear and raise children.


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However, a woman can project the consequences of choices into the future as she subconsciously chooses a partner with the best possible genes for her offspring, and the best chance for survival as well as passing on those genes to further offsprings.

Therefore, for a woman, the criteria for sexual desire in a man are such strengths as intelligence, money, power, and status. A woman may desire a physically attractive man, but she will be intimate with him only after he has satisfied more than physical criteria, which proves him to be an alpha male. If a man is strong and a provider, the woman feels safe and can relax trusting her man.

That helps her to concentrate on being a great support for her man along with bearing children and creating a loving relationship and home.


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However, if a woman doesn’t feel safe and unprotected by masculine energy, she will adapt and become or behave manly, in other words, her feminine energy contracts and she starts to survive and protect herself.

This is subconscious and written in our DNAs as part of our basic instincts. So be careful with an ultra-feminist approach as it can take you in the direction you might not want to go.

Furthermore, there are more reasons for our differences. Luckily for us, we are living in a world where scientists constantly make new discoveries about the world around us, including human beings.


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In fact, there are scientifically proven explanations of how male and female brains work, which cleared a lot for me. For example, women utilize 10 times more white matter than men, while men utilize 7 times more grey matter than women. Therefore, women are great at multitasking and can switch faster from one task to another, while men succeed by deeply engaging in one project.

So if your man is occupied with some activity and is not listening to you while you’re speaking, is not because he doesn’t care, but might be as a result of men being less likely to multitask or notice their surroundings.

There is also a difference in our brain chemistry and the way female and male brains are built. For instance, men tend to be more impulsive and aggressive because of testosterone, while women are better at bonding because of processing more oxytocin, a bonding chemical.


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In addition, women tend to sense more with their 5 senses throughout a day due to a higher density of neural connections into the hippocampus or human memory center, and overall use more words to describe a story or feeling as their verbal centers are located on both sides of the brain.

Men have fewer verbal centers and they are located only on the left hemisphere. Therefore, overall men are less likely to talk about feelings, emotions and senses.



The reason why women contemplate and revisit emotional memories more than men, is because of more blood flow throughout the woman’s brain. In general, men tend to briefly ruminate, somewhat analyze an emotive memory and then proceed with the next task. They also might prefer occupying themselves with an active task rather than analyzing their feelings at all. However, this doesn’t mean that men are avoiding their feelings, their brain is just functioning differently.

I have already spoken about the law of attraction, and another way of looking at male and female differences in the energetic level.

Remember a quote by Nikola Tesla;

“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.”?

Everything around us and inside of us is energy, however, the energetic balance is the key. Every day we are involved in continuous energy transactions, which come in a way of thoughts, conversations, relationships, etc. Even our bodies give us some clues about how we should give and receive.


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The energetic exchange

The outstanding parts of our bodies project specific energy, which is meant to be received by our partner.

▸ For example, the male reproductive system is giving and the woman reproductive system is receiving. In this case, a man gives a woman stamina, physical strengths, and reproduction on the Root Chakra level.



▸ A woman, on the other hand, gives a man sexual energy, connection, joy, and intimacy through her Sacral Chakra, and that is why woman’s belly is not as flat as man’s.

▸ Next, a man gives a woman protection, safety, abundance, comfort, and emotional and financial stability through his Solar Plexus Chakra.

▸ A woman gives her man unconditional love, emotional support, and spontaneity through her Heart Chakra, and her breast are also the key here.



▸ Through his Throat Chakra (and Adam’s apple) man transcends energy to his woman in a form of respect, status, appreciation and freedom to express herself.

▸ A woman gives her man vision, ideas, intuition, belief in future plans through her Third Eye Chakra.



▸ On the level of Crown Chakra, there is an equal exchange, where the man gives a woman mental strengths while the woman gives the man spiritual guidance.

If the chakras are working correctly, we create a balance in energies receiving experience each of us is lacking.

So dear ladies, next time when you start complaining about the differences between men and women, remember, we are not meant to function in the same way. Be sure you choose your man wisely and then take a proper care of him.

“A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
A successful woman is one who can find such a man.”
– Lana Turner



About Author

Anna Bey is the founder of JetsetBabe and School of Affluence - and online educational platform helping women achieve elegance and get an affluent life. Visit for more info! P.S Don't miss her Youtube channel & Instagram.


  1. I really loved the research you have done on this,. You have integrated various systems of knowledge, anatomy, physiology, bio-medical, psychology and more esoteric knowledge into one informative and coherent article.

  2. Hey Anna! Great article that’s very informative! Although, I didn’t think the title really reflected the content, it was still a good read! May I suggest you post your sources with your claims? It ties everything more together. xx

  3. Oh…I thought this article was going to mention the obvious, which is that women make %18 less than men for the same career positions within their lifetime.

  4. My BF resents me for paying for everything. I just finished some extra study and I’ve been looking for a job (but tough at this time of year!). I am getting some small assistance from the govt so I am giving him some money towards living costs and pay my own personal bills.
    He makes good money and owns his own home (mortgage is almost paid off), but he is not super wealthy. But I will never be able to make as much as him.

    Often he will bring up in arguments that he pays for everything (no he never buys me gifts, I just mean like when we go out to dinner and majority of the grocery bill). I feel really uncomfortable in this situation. There is a 7 year age gap between us. He is using the fact he pays for most things against me. I feel it’s really unfair to bring it up, if he doesn’t like it then he should go find a career woman. He has been a bachelor a long time and never really had a real gf, he plans trips without me and buys expensive gifts for himself ALL the time. He also said he wants me to sign a pre nup, I don’t think this is fair. We have been together over a year and I’m turning 30 soon, I’m serious about wanting to settle down with a man and have a family, in some ways he seems too selfish if he can’t share. IDK what to do.

    • If I was you, I would leave. He is simple selfish and doesn’t think in your needs. Imagine that as a father. You’ll be really sad.

    • I dated somebody like this when I was in my very early twenties – trust me, once you leave you will kick yourself for staying as long as you did! The guy I dated was also noticeably older than me, but although he earned more than me (I was a student at the time) he was by no means wealthy. Still, he would rarely pay for me, never got me gifts worth more than $40, and he even insisted on splitting groceries when I cooked for him! Fortunately we didn’t live together or it would have been worse.

      A few months after splitting up, I met a great man who thinks nothing of bringing me out for dinner, buying me gifts, and taking care of me. We live in a house that he owns, and even though I initially offered to contribute to expenses he immediately rejected the idea. He NEVER rubs it in my face that he paid for dinner last week/ bought me xyz gift a few months ago/pays the bills and therefore I owe him. He does those things because he genuinely wants to show his love and appreciation for me, and in turn I make sure that he knows how much I value his generosity. Find a guy like this and I promise you will never look back!

  5. I was in a similar relationship from 18 years old till 25. He was the typical average Joe. Earning average, being absolutely average. He started with big promises and financial support at the beginning, until we started to live together. Then he completely withdrew everything he was doing for me. All the emotions, gifts, promises for great future, everything was a lie. He was showing his financial dominance and literally putting it in my face. The funny thing is that he is not really successful or affluent. He just bought an apartment in London, which is perfectly normal for his age. A really successful and Alfa male is never doing anything of the things he was doing. The only reason why I tolerated him for so long is because I was young, naive and unaware. Now when I gained some experience and awareness, he is just plain narcissistic and workaholic who is emotionally immature and can’t give me what I deserve. I’m still young and will do my best to make the right choices from now on. To all the women who are reading this: what you tolerate will proceed. Never settle for less than you deserve! These men are insecure and with deep internal issues, they won’t get better. Just find the right man who will bring out the best in you!

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