Wednesday, December 12

How To Make A Man Provide For You

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At this temporary stage in my life, my income is extremely limited, and the men I’ve been dating have always been earning x100000000000 more than me – so I think it’s kind of common sense that the person who earns the most, should pay (regardless gender) if you are seeing each other.

That day I’m making loads of money, or at least as much as my partner, I’m happy to also pay for things, as I enjoy treating people generously when I afford. But for that to happen, I need to have money. I’m still working on it, as I’m just at the beginning of my career (#latebloomer), but my dream is to get there one day. (And I will! Girlpower!)

In fact, I’m actually looking forward to that day when I have enough money, to surprise my boyfriend by booking a spontaneous trip somewhere (on my expense) or buying him a beautiful watch (with my own money!!). It would really make me happy, but unfortunately, I’m far from there at the moment, but one day I’m aspiring to be, and I can’t wait for it! That’s honestly how I feel, and it’s one of my main motivations in my daily work…

So this debate whether women should pay or not is an individual question.

I don’t think women are obliged to pay because how our traditions are set and how unfair the society is for women as it is, I think it’s only fair, (in the unfairness), that men for once have to carry some burden. It’s challenging as it is being a woman and carrying the heaviest burdens God has given us, so cut us some slack at least when it comes to finances!
On top of it, we spend so much money on our appearance, just to look good for the men, that’s why I think they can at least spend a bit on the dinner and the travel. I don’t think we’re asking for much….

But about the question on how to make a man provide for you, I think it’s really up to three things.

1. Pick an experienced jet-set man

The category of men in the jetsetting environment is versatile. You have everything and everyone! You have the millionaire and billionaire who is experienced to his teeth and knows exactly what women want and how to pamper them. Then you also have the less experienced types (they might be the secret millionaire type of guy), and that’s when we move on to number two… (See below)

How To Make Men Provide For You

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2. If he doesn’t get it, tell him! (..or show him)

This is what Russian women are very good at, telling exactly what they want and how they like it, without caring what the recipient thinks of it.

If you want him to provide for you, he needs to know it. Many times, men are not aware of how the jetset world works! I would say half of the wealthy men are just “ordinary Joe’s” who are not used to the jetset environment. They are just normal guys with loads of money who have been too focused on growing their career and not mingling too much with JetsetBabes, to learn that what a woman of this caliber wants.

You, therefore, must be straight-forward with him, no matter how uncomfortable it feels, telling him that “it’s important for you to be with a man who takes care of things and is generous.” I personally don’t think a woman should say anything more than that, just let him process that information, and you take it from there.

If he argues with you, it’s a bit of a warning sign that he is either stingy or not on the level where you want your man to be. And please note, this is not some golddigger talk here ladies! It’s about being honest about what’s important for you because there is nothing shameful to have generosity on your priority list. This society is already shaming women and judging us for caring about finances and materialism, but don’t let that control you.

One more thing though… Some men really get put off when women are straightforward about what they want. If you feel that could be the situation, then the best method to go about it is to “show him” what you want rather than saying it out loud. Such thing could be, pointing something out when you’re out and about “window shopping,” saying that you are hoping to buy X when you finally afford and so on…

How To Make Men Provide For You

3. But it’s also about give and take…

I’m not talking about a sexual give and take here. But if you’re expecting to receive, then you should give something in return.

The world does not evolve “men owing you” and you “expect things without giving back anything.” I personally don’t like it, even though I’m very much Pro receiving. I make sure I give so much emotional value as possible to my man. I give him attention, my gratitude and my warmth (without being too much of course.) I think it’s the most important to tell you the truth. If you don’t give anything (it’s always free to give him your love), then I don’t think you should expect to get anything either. It’s not just a one-way street here… Be generous with your female energy, men love it!

How To Make Men Provide For You

In a world where men try to control women by labeling them “gold diggers” for whatever reasons, I will forever encourage women to communicate their desires to men, to fight back in this unfairness!

If you have materialistic and financial desires, you have all the rights to have that, just as much as men have the right to their sexual desires. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel bad about it! Don’t let anyone control you! Just be fair, humble and practice give&take, the universe will reward you!

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Anna Bey is the founder of JetsetBabe and School of Affluence - and online educational platform helping women achieve elegance and get an affluent life. Visit SchoolOfAffluence.com for more info! P.S Don't miss her Youtube channel & Instagram.

8 Comments

  1. I have to say I don’t agree on this topic at all. I understand there is often an imbalance between a man’s and a lady’s salary/income. And “providing for s/o” is also something different than demanding luxury goods non stop. On which basis, because the girls are pretty and can give love to a guy? They are the only ones in the world who can do that?? Instead, girls should try to provide for themselves, get education, get a job, at least have a back up. I understand that due to current situation such as ongoing education or set up of business or temporary unemployment there might be shortage of funds and it’s okay if the guy is helping out financially (paying rent and taking over bills). In my opinion, a relation is more balanced if also the girl is able to contribute quite some money, at least that’s what I feel. Inviting the guy for a spontaneous breakfast, buying a nice birthday gift which he would have thought twice about buying and so on. Where I live there are many Russian ladies (because you mentioned them) and they have a very bad reputation of being gold diggers. Meaning, looking for a rich guy (or just any guy with some money) and get the most out of him, justifying their demands with their beauty. (Western) European girls instead have the reputation of being more down to earth, less demanding and more honest about being with a man (for their true feelings and not because he has some money). So I just wanted to write this because women have made themselves too dependent on men for centuries, so asking a man to “provide” for them or even demanding for endless luxury goods doesn’t help.. in the end, the money again makes her depending on a guy. then the question is for the man also, is she only with me for the money? I am 100% sure that many guys are not sure about this and silently asking themselves this question.. sorry but I’m a feminist, I love your blog though! 🙂

    • I’m a feminist too, and I think in an ideal world everyone should be independent and have great jobs, education and financial situation. But until a person reaches that stage, I think it’s absolutely fine to be dependent on help from someone else if that’s a route you want to take.

  2. I completely agree with you Anna, this text is spot on. It’s not just about the woman wanting money either, if the man makes a lot of money but doesn’t want to spend it on his girl, what is he going to do with it? Go and have lovely dinners with himself and travel alone? The spending should be proportional to the income and unfortunately women make less than their man in most cases. If she makes a lot more, then of course she has the privilege to treat her man!

  3. 100% honestly speaking, I think a lot of it has to do with your appereance. If you look good after yourself, have a good education & manners, you can do it. If not… you have to work more on yourself. Especially weight, skin, etc etc
    love your blog & honesty, ana xxx

  4. 100% honestly speaking, I think a lot of it has to do with your appereance. If you look good after yourself, have a good education & manners, you can do it. If not… you have to work more on yourself. Especially weight, skin, etc etc
    love your blog & honesty, ana xxx

  5. Excellent article Anna. Thank you for reminding me that my wants are important. There is nothing manipulative in asking from an honest place for financial or material gain. If the man rejects that, he’s not for me. There is nothing wrong with that.

  6. Jackline Filipe on

    And how exactly do you give back? What do you mean female energy? When do you know that you’re not supposed to exaggerate in the giving back part

  7. The way a woman can look at it is, “If I don’t try him, another woman will.” So what’s so wrong with wanting to have a happy good life rather than a struggling life if the opportunity is there?

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