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To be lazy or to do something with your life, that’s the question…

Many women who enter into a relationship with an affluent man, get comfortable in the abundance of wealth and end up doing nothing with their lives as a result. They become the “ladies who lunch” with daily errands like spa, shopping, mani-pedi and so on… Basically the stereotype of a trophy wife to a wealthy man.

I must admit, I feel sorry for the karma of us women. That nature designed the dynamic between men and women that women are the caregivers while men are the hunters. We are designed to be building a nest while the men are out on the battlefield, providing for us.

How to be a self-made woman

Being the sex who is always reliant on someone else is not always ideal. Especially not in our fast-changing society where traditional family values are becoming outdated. Couples are not staying together the way they used to, and divorce is becoming more common than a life-long partnership.

This is affecting women more negatively than it does the men. If we stay true to our gender roles (man = provider, woman = caregiver) us women are gambling with our long-term safety net.
Anytime, any moment the rug can be pulled underneath our feet and then we’re standing there, wondering what to do next.

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Some women are legally bound to accumulate a percentage from their men, but that’s usually if you’re married and the man doesn’t hide his money in dodgy offshore companies when it’s time for divorce.

Some women think that because they are married, that they’re set for life. Sadly, it’s not always that easy. Legislations are different in different countries, prenups are made to protect the man and he can use dirty but efficient tricks to scam you. How many variations haven’t we seen to divorce cases and relationship break up’s where women get stranded bare feet?! Some walk out of the relationship exactly how they entered it – with nothing – and their men think it’s only fair.

I personally don’t think it’s fair. Men have one thing to think of in their lifetime and that’s providing for his family and offspring. Women have to pull the hardest load with everything from childbirth, to hormonal chaos, to have to be reliant on a man because she is the carrier and the caregiver and much much more. (In this post I’ve written a more detailed list of the unfairness)

How to be a self-made woman

Relationships are teamwork; half of the team is the man who deals with the $$$$. And the second half is the woman, dealing with the household and family duties. It’s how we’re structured and how God created us. Just because in the team the woman is not dealing hands-on with the finances, doesn’t mean she’s not entitled to it.

The same goes the other way around, women who think men are not entitled to see the kids after a split/divorce just because they came out of her. Equally unfair and selfish.

Going back to how the modern world is creating a tougher karma for women:

The reality is, this is the way it is at the moment and we can’t do anything about it.
We can’t change the biological laws and we can’t hope for men to man up and be fair; owning up to their part of the teamwork after a break-up. We can try and pick the kindest types possible who have a higher chance of being the better kind – or us women can create a safety net for ourselves.

How to be a self-made woman

Times are changing and so is the modern woman.

Being a lady who’s mission in life is to only have lunch or SPA appointments might look all fancy and such. But it’s not so fancy when your partner is having an affair, and you’re too tied down in the relationship and can’t leave him because you’re so reliant on him financially.

Without him you have nothing, so you rather close an eye on it all. Sometimes you have to weigh between being homeless or being stuck in an unhappy relationship, so choosing the latter is the best you can do.

There will come a moment, however, where you will ask yourself;

What if I was doing something with my life instead of putting myself in this position from the beginning? What if my time could have been better spent in something that long-term would benefit me more than all those lunches, shopping trips, and spa appointments I did?

None of them brought my future any value, all they did was giving me a temporary entertainment fix while wasting my time. And what am I left with now? Nowhere to go.

How to be a self-made woman

So yes, the karma of women can be a B*tch. A total nightmare if not handled correctly. The world will always be unfair, and we’re always going to have to struggle more than men. I’m sure there’s a higher purpose for all of this, but the last thing we can do is to 1. act stupid 2. sit and complain about it (while doing nothing).

Instead, we can behave smart and make sure our life never has to go down the drain.
There is always the option for the woman to become self-made herself, to do something she’s passionate about with her life and to be self-sufficient if worst comes to the worst.
Remember how our parents always taught us about the importance of always saving for a rainy day?
It’s the exact same principle here.
Invest the time you have right now into something that will save you on a rainy day.

How to be a self-made woman – “Create options for yourself in life”

Get a career, a business, an education, – anything that you can fall back on without ever have to be reliant on someone else. Money is power, and power is independence.

Like someone once told me; “the most important thing in life is to have options. Like this, you will never be locked down to one option only, perhaps an option that you don’t want to choose.”

Create a life for yourself where there are endless opportunities. That will be the sweetest feeling of freedom. And no matter how much a man might hurt you, he will never make a fool out of you, because you’re in total control of yourself and your life.



About Author

Anna Bey is the founder of JetsetBabe and School of Affluence - and online educational platform helping women achieve elegance and get an affluent life. Visit for more info! P.S Don't miss her Youtube channel & Instagram.


  1. I enjoyed this article, and have myself observed this trend with women who desire this lifestyle. Some comments on a multitude of Instagram accounts include “one day that will be me”, or “GOALS”. And we’ve all found ourselves saying those very same things. But these comments are being made on the profiles of women who are relied on other men to pay their way, or even spoiled girlfriends to LEGALLY married men. I made sure to cap ‘legally’ since a lot of women have a belief that in this lifestyle a “spoiled girlfriend” actually means something. Sure… In our world a ‘spoiled girlfriend’ means something but legally she can be left with nothing if she steps on the wrong toes.There is nothing and I mean nothing wrong with desiring and or aiming for a luxurious lifestyle with a wealthy man.I believe women should aim for single men and not married men who are only giving percentages of themselves. I am very opposed to women who relinquish their power by allowing a man to control total finances in the household. During the initial courtship phase a man needs to know you are used to being spoiled yet you definitely have the money to care for yourself. He needs to see you busy in your own endeavors making enough cash to pay your own rent, buy your own food, and make your own car payments. If he chooses to do that which we all would love then that is great and you’ve caught yourself a provider. But the day we start making a man feel indebted for OUR living expenses is the day we need to start working on ourselves and build. Ladies… How many of you have gone out on a date and deliberately ordered costly items to test a mans wallet? Well… You need to ask yourself do you have that same amount in your bank account? God forbid he stiffed you with the bill! Would you be able to pay for yourself or would you be forced to dine & ditch? So before we start demanding a partner making crazy cash and passive income I believe we should all equally be striving to manage our own intellect (college, art, culture) and money.
    I don’t care if you work at a nail salon part-time, operating an online business, or drive Uber it is vitally important that a woman makes a small income for herself. I’m very inclined to believe with the onslaught of these Instagram famous socialites quite a bit of girls and hey maybe even women are in strong belief that their looks are sustainable for long term financial security. At least if you are educated, working or doing both you have leverage when your life may point you in a different direction. Some people don’t want this lifestyle bad enough to stick it out I’d rather have my own money and education in case I detour.

  2. Mena Marie on

    Extremely well spoken👏 I really enjoyed this article and how you are not afraid to call it as it is 💕 Your honest, to the point way of writing has made your blog my very favorite ❤

  3. ONE OF THE BEST ARTICLES YOU`VE EVER WRITTE ANA! If not the best! That`s exactly what my mother thaught me. Althougt it would be nice for a woman to count on her man and although working gets on her way to blossom her femenine side, it`s still better to do something and to count on yourself because as you very well said, long-lasting partnership is not very popular now and the tendencies show it won`t be anymore soon. So unfrtunatelly, althouht we are more affected , we women need to take care of our own selves. This article couldn`t come in better time for me. Not that it said something I didn`t know, but you are so well-spoken, you can put in order all my thoughts with very few words, catching so well the essence! I just adore readng you! You inspire women and you are such a smart lady! 🙂

  4. Well spoken, very true. I married young and have two small kids. The marriage was a disaster. I promised myself I will never be reliant on a man again, I want to live life for my children, for me.

  5. Anne-Sophie on

    I couldn’t have said it a better way that’s the thing my mom teached me since my childhood when I was playing with my dolls. One of the sentence she always used to say is “you better be independent and have your own money, because if one day you have a men in your life and you need money to buy tampon and pads and he don’t want to give you the money for it because you had an argument or whatever reason you will feel humiliated so have your money” I think this was her way to teach me that freedom doesn’t have a price.

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