Wednesday, January 16

Hair Tips For Black Women

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Written by JetsetBabe contributor, Eolia

First of all, I would like to say a big thank you and send a virtual warm hug to all those who enjoyed and supported my first post here on the blog. In that post, I shared my thoughts and advice on black skincare and beauty.

On the path to affluence, nothing can be left to chance. A woman of high caliber must look after her manners, education, and appearance. We all know that hair is a key part of a woman’s femininity. The right hairstyle can take any woman from 0 to 100 in a matter of hours. Color, cut, texture, highlights..all of these elements need to be studied and mastered if you want to reach your full potential. Don’t get scared, it’s really not that difficult. Actually, the reason why so many women get it wrong is that they overdo it. Nigerian blogger Serra Bellum is another good exemple.

Hair tips for black women

Much ink has been spilled on the topic of Black hair.

Our hair is naturally extremely coarse, dry and stiff. It takes great discipline and time to maintain. This is one of the reasons why many black ladies, including myself, chose not to wear it in its natural state.

Now, I understand that this is a very sensitive topic in the black community. Many shame the non-natural girls and claim they suffer identity issues. Sadly, I have heard these accusations too many time, and it’s high time we give it a rest. To me, my hair is not a cultural statement, and it all comes down to aesthetic.

I chose to relax my hair and wear it straight because it fits my face shape better and gives me a sleek and neat look. I’ve also found that I’ve had much more success with the opposite sex when wearing straight or curly hair as opposed to sporting my coarse ‘fro. I believe that being part of jet-set circles requires you to make certain crucial choices. You should find the right balance between fitting in and keeping your edge. That being said, if you believe natural curly/coarse hair works better for you, then I encourage you to go for it. Victoria’s Secret model Maria Borges is a prime example that you can look chic with natural hair.


I take extremely good care of my hair even when wearing wigs and extensions. My routine includes basic steps like moisturizing, deep-conditioning, and low manipulation hairstyles. I only go to Dominican or African hair salons as I find that European hairdressers do not have the skills nor the knowledge required to handle our hair. Caucasian, Asian and African hair are different. To get the best results, you must go to a salon that is used to working with your hair type.

The hardest part is probably finding the right products. Please avoid using the generic stuff at your local supermarket. I purchase online brands such as Activilong, Keracare, ORS, Macadamia and pair them with natural oils. My favorite is Moroccan Argan oil. In my previous article, I talked about going the Hammam (Arabic steam spa) twice a month to exfoliate my skin. Well, while I’m in there, I also apply a deep-conditioning mask to my hair and let it sit for a few minutes. I’ve learned some of the best beauty tips from my Moroccan girlfriends; there is a lot we can learn from them (from Koreans and Russians too, to be entirely fair.)

Back to the topic of hair, the key is to make sure you have a solid hair-care regimen. It is one thing to wear wigs and extensions but you have to make sure your hair is healthy underneath them. I promise you, this will boost your self-confidence and make your life 10times easier.

Hair tips for black women


I like to think about Black hair as a double-edged sword. It’s incredibly difficult to maintain, but at the same time, it leaves a lot of room for versatility. You can be a different woman every week and easily re-invent yourself by using wigs, extensions, and weaves. In this post, I will go through my signature looks and try to break it down for you.


This is my absolute favorite hairstyle. It looks chic and neat. This length is perfect if you want to look stylish and edgy without being tomboyish. It’s also great if you want to look younger!

The break-down:

Freshly relaxed hair.

I’ve been using the brand ORS Olive Oil but I’m in search of a new one. You know this thing about alternating beauty products..Any suggestions? This hairstyle is very high-maintenance and cannot be achieved with natural hair. To be fair I can only keep it looking neat and shiny for 3weeks post-relaxer until my hair becomes a big frizzy mess.

My hair is naturally dark-brown.

I dye it jet black for a femme fatale look, many friends of mine have started to do this and trust me it makes a hell of a difference on dark skin! Make sure you use an ammonia-free formula to keep your hair as healthy as possible during the process.

This is not a DIY style.

When it comes to bob cuts, you must find a hairdresser who is highly skilled and can manage your hair type.

Journalist Taylor Rooks also shows off a similar cut:

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This is honestly a game changer. It is very beginner friendly and highly versatile. You can use a different type of extensions: curly or straight depending on your initial hair type. You can also do a middle-part (flattering on most women and very classy) side part, high or low ponytail.

All you need to do is tie your hair neatly and secure the extensions with bobby pins. 5 mins and you’re good to go. This video explains the process in details:

Here are 3 pictures where I used the same exact technique:

1. The first is a middle part low straight ponytail 

Hair tips for black women

2. The second is a no part curly ponytail

Hair tips for black women

3. The third is a middle part low bun

Hair tips for black women


For a weave, our real hair is braided down into cornrows. Then the extensions are woven to those braids with a needle and strings made especially for hair weaving. I tend to leave my own hair in the front and style it accordingly to match the extensions. This requires a little bit of practice to get it right.

The secret: 

If you want to wear straight long hair, chose Italian Yaki as opposed to Bone Straight hair for a realistic elegant look. Silky hair can never look natural on African women because we can not naturally grow hair this straight. Therefore, to match your texture you must choose your extensions wisely.

A curly weave is my other fave, it’s feminine and flirty.

Hair tips for black women

Weaves and wigs are also an easy way to get adventurous and different colors without ruining your own hair.

I tried to make this post as concise and dense as possible. But the truth is, there is just too many information to share. I did not cover lace front wigs, braids, and other amazing styles simply because I have very little knowledge and do not master those hairstyles.

Also, if you are a beginner, youtube is the place for you. Find a YouTuber who has similar hair type as you and take it from there. Be patient, gentle and never go cheap with products.

I wish you all ladies best of luck in your level-up journey and remember when in doubt, keep it simple because Less is more!


About Author

I'm a health and Beauty passionate. Femininity is my mantra. In my spare time I write and investigate on beauty, hair and cosmetics.


  1. Im not sure I like the some of the language used or ideas put forward in this post. First of all natural afro textured hair can look very neat and sleek, to think you can only achieve neat or sleek styles with relaxed hair is misleading. You have failed to mention that most of these styles can be achieved with a hot combe or by silk press, and if your stylist is skilled enough some of these straight styles can be achieved with just a blow drier and a brush. You also failed to mention how elegant and feminine various loc styles can look, especially if the locs are small, long and well kept. Natrual hair styles worn in an up do like flat twist or twist outs can look incredibly formal and girly, they are often my go to choice for weddings and easy to do if your hair is long enough. Furthermore, I wish people would stop assuming that all black people have the same textured afro or experience difficulty managing their hair. My hair is type 4c and is far from ‘corse’ in fact it’s on the finer, softer side when moisturised and detangled. I also find that the longer the natural hair is the easier and more versatile it is to style, now what is dificult is retaining the length because of tangling. I do agree that some affluent men may find relaxed hair more attractive simpy because it is more familiar as it is closer to European textured hair, but when most well to do men meet black women with well kept natural hair styles it is far from a deal breaker. Anyway I do agree that whatever your hair texture, taking the time and patients to educate yourself about your hair is the key to looking well groomed.

    • Although I agree with your comment, I think she was writing from her own experience with hair (relaxed hair). Personally, I appreciate this rather than someone who pretends to know all about black hair. Also, she stated that writing about all the different hair styles that we can wear will be far too much for one blog post. maybe she intends to do a series

  2. I agree with TOSIN; why do you (Eolia) use such negative language when referencing afro-textured hair? Not all Africans or those in the diaspora have “coarse, frizzy, stiff, dry, unmanageable” hair. Some have naturally wavy or even naturally straight hair while others may have loosely coiled or tightly coiled hair. Some have naturally blonde or naturally red hair. If an aspect of living an affluent lifestyle is to be true to oneself, I would encourage women of color especially, but all women in general, to embrace and be educated about all the characteristics that are inherent and unique to them.

  3. I like the article about relaxed hair. The black women who want an article about natural ,kinky hair can submit their articles to Anna Bey.

    • The point is that the author uses negative terminology when referring to natural, afro-textured hair. There is absolutely not one negative thing about hair that grows naturally from a any one person’s scalp. If it is your preference to wear your afro-textured hair in a relaxed state, there is no need to cast negativity, explicit or implied, on natural, afro-textured hair.

  4. Any subject on confidence in one’s own skin is best atriculated by someone who truly is that. I am happy the dog days of living someone else’s best life are over.
    A black woman’s in ability to attract men when natural is a direct indication to low self esteem. If you are’nt over here with your ‘fro’ or ‘china bumps’ thinking you’re the shit….what do you think others will think. Furthermore it’s not your job to attract a man, save your energy by becoming your best self and and he will just appear.
    There is something to be said about living with an imposter, its far worse when you are it!!!

  5. I actually loved the article, we dominican women are used to blow dry every type of hair and most of us go to the salon since we are very young. I like natural hair in other people but I don’t like my natural hair. I believe the beauty of life is that we can change stuff we don’t like about ourselves. If you like your hair good for you but I don’t have to like your hair and if you complain maybe we both have “low self esteem “ .

  6. I appreciate that the ultimate message is that you should do what works best for your look and goals and what makes you feel most comfortable and confident.

    I also agree that it is important to establish a hair care regimen that works best for your hair. It is also important to take into consideration the region of the world you live in- this is surprisingly (or maybe not) very important for black women in the diaspora. This doesn’t have to be difficult. I also think finding a good professional experienced in dealing with African and African American hair can really aid in this.

    I personally wear my hair naturally 90% of the time. My hair does not respond well to being relaxed or pressed. I wear wigs on occasion (they also give me an opportunity to experiment with different looks without committing). I have found that the response from men when natural or straight hasn’t been that different. But that is my experience. Natural hair can also be very versatile, I wear a different hairstyle almost every day. But this comes with having a good regimen and an understanding of how to work with your hair.

    Focus on putting together a complete package- with hair being one element.

  7. I’m extremely disappointed by the co-opting of this article by those that want to cause drama and hurl accusations of negativity. The author specifically says that if you like to wear your hair natural, do so, so no; no negativity at all. That being said, I loved this article—it’s so well-written and informative! It wonderful that there are so many hair options, and ladies can choose which suits their facial structure and aesthetic best. Everyone can wear the hair that they’re comfortable with and look great: win-win. The ladies featured here are beautiful, and especially Maria Borges, Taylor Rooks, and the author have hair goals!

  8. GREAT article! I agree with all of this! I prefer to wear my hair straight also. I feel I look more sleek and I feel sexier. I would love to see more brown women of color embrace looks that make them look and feel their best and skip making political statements with their hair. I also avoid OTC (over the counter) hair products and use only professional hair products. Macademia, Aquage, Morroconoil are my fave brands. I also think for brown Jet Set babes likes us, we should embrace the salon culture. There’s something so feminine and ritualistic about getting your hair professionally styled and maintained in the salon regularly. Also you’ll always look more refined and top notch with professionally cut and styled hair -especially when wearing extensions. Again, great article, great tips! Smart JetSet girls know what this is about 😉

    PS…I personally avoid ORS no-lye relaxers (due to calcuium buildup) and use professional lye relaxers like Mizani Butter Blends or PhytoSpecific. It is rumored that Oprah Winfrey uses Phyto 😉

    Thanks Again,

  9. Ashley Wilson on

    Anna, thank you for taking the time to make sure that tailored advice was given for us!
    Why is everyone complaining – again? This articles title was not “Why to love your hair”.
    Just take what you will from this article; whether it’s style ideas, finding a local steam room/ hamman or just seeing pictures of a dark and beautiful jetset babe.
    All hair (European and African) is dry and frizzy when it’s not maintained. Fact.
    Ladies stop moaning and just schedule in your next salon appointment.
    Thanks Eolia and Anna xx


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