Written by JetsetBabe contributor, Eolia
First of all, I would like to say a big thank you and send a virtual warm hug to all those who enjoyed and supported my first post here on the blog. In that post, I shared my thoughts and advice on black skincare and beauty.
On the path to affluence, nothing can be left to chance. A woman of high caliber must look after her manners, education, and appearance. We all know that hair is a key part of a woman’s femininity. The right hairstyle can take any woman from 0 to 100 in a matter of hours. Color, cut, texture, highlights..all of these elements need to be studied and mastered if you want to reach your full potential. Don’t get scared, it’s really not that difficult. Actually, the reason why so many women get it wrong is that they overdo it. Nigerian blogger Serra Bellum is another good exemple.
Much ink has been spilled on the topic of Black hair.
Our hair is naturally extremely coarse, dry and stiff. It takes great discipline and time to maintain. This is one of the reasons why many black ladies, including myself, chose not to wear it in its natural state.
Now, I understand that this is a very sensitive topic in the black community. Many shame the non-natural girls and claim they suffer identity issues. Sadly, I have heard these accusations too many time, and it’s high time we give it a rest. To me, my hair is not a cultural statement, and it all comes down to aesthetic.
I chose to relax my hair and wear it straight because it fits my face shape better and gives me a sleek and neat look. I’ve also found that I’ve had much more success with the opposite sex when wearing straight or curly hair as opposed to sporting my coarse ‘fro. I believe that being part of jet-set circles requires you to make certain crucial choices. You should find the right balance between fitting in and keeping your edge. That being said, if you believe natural curly/coarse hair works better for you, then I encourage you to go for it. Victoria’s Secret model Maria Borges is a prime example that you can look chic with natural hair.
I take extremely good care of my hair even when wearing wigs and extensions. My routine includes basic steps like moisturizing, deep-conditioning, and low manipulation hairstyles. I only go to Dominican or African hair salons as I find that European hairdressers do not have the skills nor the knowledge required to handle our hair. Caucasian, Asian and African hair are different. To get the best results, you must go to a salon that is used to working with your hair type.
The hardest part is probably finding the right products. Please avoid using the generic stuff at your local supermarket. I purchase online brands such as Activilong, Keracare, ORS, Macadamia and pair them with natural oils. My favorite is Moroccan Argan oil. In my previous article, I talked about going the Hammam (Arabic steam spa) twice a month to exfoliate my skin. Well, while I’m in there, I also apply a deep-conditioning mask to my hair and let it sit for a few minutes. I’ve learned some of the best beauty tips from my Moroccan girlfriends; there is a lot we can learn from them (from Koreans and Russians too, to be entirely fair.)
Back to the topic of hair, the key is to make sure you have a solid hair-care regimen. It is one thing to wear wigs and extensions but you have to make sure your hair is healthy underneath them. I promise you, this will boost your self-confidence and make your life 10times easier.
THE BEAUTY OF BLACK HAIR
I like to think about Black hair as a double-edged sword. It’s incredibly difficult to maintain, but at the same time, it leaves a lot of room for versatility. You can be a different woman every week and easily re-invent yourself by using wigs, extensions, and weaves. In this post, I will go through my signature looks and try to break it down for you.
THE SLICK BOB
This is my absolute favorite hairstyle. It looks chic and neat. This length is perfect if you want to look stylish and edgy without being tomboyish. It’s also great if you want to look younger!
Freshly relaxed hair.
I’ve been using the brand ORS Olive Oil but I’m in search of a new one. You know this thing about alternating beauty products..Any suggestions? This hairstyle is very high-maintenance and cannot be achieved with natural hair. To be fair I can only keep it looking neat and shiny for 3weeks post-relaxer until my hair becomes a big frizzy mess.
My hair is naturally dark-brown.
I dye it jet black for a femme fatale look, many friends of mine have started to do this and trust me it makes a hell of a difference on dark skin! Make sure you use an ammonia-free formula to keep your hair as healthy as possible during the process.
This is not a DIY style.
When it comes to bob cuts, you must find a hairdresser who is highly skilled and can manage your hair type.
Journalist Taylor Rooks also shows off a similar cut:
This is honestly a game changer. It is very beginner friendly and highly versatile. You can use a different type of extensions: curly or straight depending on your initial hair type. You can also do a middle-part (flattering on most women and very classy) side part, high or low ponytail.
All you need to do is tie your hair neatly and secure the extensions with bobby pins. 5 mins and you’re good to go. This video explains the process in details:
Here are 3 pictures where I used the same exact technique:
1. The first is a middle part low straight ponytail
2. The second is a no part curly ponytail
3. The third is a middle part low bun
For a weave, our real hair is braided down into cornrows. Then the extensions are woven to those braids with a needle and strings made especially for hair weaving. I tend to leave my own hair in the front and style it accordingly to match the extensions. This requires a little bit of practice to get it right.
If you want to wear straight long hair, chose Italian Yaki as opposed to Bone Straight hair for a realistic elegant look. Silky hair can never look natural on African women because we can not naturally grow hair this straight. Therefore, to match your texture you must choose your extensions wisely.
A curly weave is my other fave, it’s feminine and flirty.
Weaves and wigs are also an easy way to get adventurous and different colors without ruining your own hair.
I tried to make this post as concise and dense as possible. But the truth is, there is just too many information to share. I did not cover lace front wigs, braids, and other amazing styles simply because I have very little knowledge and do not master those hairstyles.
Also, if you are a beginner, youtube is the place for you. Find a YouTuber who has similar hair type as you and take it from there. Be patient, gentle and never go cheap with products.
I wish you all ladies best of luck in your level-up journey and remember when in doubt, keep it simple because Less is more!