Yesterday I met up with one of my older female friends. She is a proper Jetset wife, with 2 failed marriages in her baggage but currently happy married to her 3rd millionaire.
Not many friends of mine know I’m writing this blog, but I had to tell her as I wanted to interview her for a post about how it is being married to a rich man. She is truly an expert, as she’s been through a lot, both good and bad. I’ve taken notes of her own words but I’ve also summarized our conversation in my way.
Being married to a millionaire
“Many girls out there dream of marrying a rich man and live happily ever after, but I’m not sure they understand how the reality actually is.
Many girls don’t seem to realize that marrying a millionaire actually puts more pressure and testing to the relationship, in comparison if they would marry an average Joe.”
Let me tell you the most common truth, the other side of the coin jetset wife’s usually don’t talk loudly about:
The Rich Man Syndrome
* A successful business man earns his wealth because he is constantly pushing himself to aim higher. That’s how he makes more and more money. He never satisfies with what he gets, there is always something better to be achieved. Unfortunately many successful business men think the same way when it comes to their women.
Women become as exchangeable as their financial goals, they always aim for something better once they get what they want. This is a well known “rich man syndrome” everyone knows about it.
Probably one of the biggest issues trying to be married to one, as you end up with a cheating husband = he gets bored with having only a wife and he knows he can get away with cheating because he delivers the $$$$$ to the household.
If you’re only dating and not being married to a business man you will notice how he will pamper you until your “honeymoon phase” is over, then you will get exchanged to someone new.
Some guys are even worse; they won’t even bother dating girls as they prioritize spending their time by continuing building their wealth (working) so they just sleep with girls and exchange them like toys when they feel like. Again, Welcome to the “rich man syndrome”.
The Goldiggers will become your enemy
* Like mentioned above, the cheating rate for rich guys are higher. It’s just a fact even though I don’t have any stats for it, but you can try and see for yourself. However there is always a very small percentage of rich men who actually don’t cheat (but yeah, good luck finding them) – but you will still get faced with another problem: the Goldigger Homewreckers.
Golddigging women turn in to hungry hyenas and will hunt down every rich man they come across to any prize. These girls are everywhere, you would be surprised! Where your man is, they will be too. Simply because they know where to hang around, they go with their girlfriends to all the expensive / elegant venues/bars/restaurants/clubs you name it where your man most probably also will go for business lunches, client outings etc.
And the rest you can figure out yourself.
When you’re married to a millionaire you always have to be on the look out for the homewreckers and believe me, it’s damn stressful! Some jetset wifes manage to switch off, but I still believe it’s in the back of the mind of everyone, no matter how much you trust your man.
The truth is that even if you’ve got your rich husband and you think “yes finally, my life is now sorted”, it’s actually not the case as the marriage can be taken away from you any second. Now you probably think “but it’s like that in any marriage”. Well, let me tell you this – not necessarily.
For us jetset wifes, we actually have an army of sabotaging women waiting around the corner and willing to do anything to steal our man away from us.
These women have absolutely no mercy and they come well prepared, ready to do anything to win. I’ve seen many happy marriges fail due to this, and this will be the constant battle.
Because this is the reality, and you will have to live with this. It will be up to you how to handle the issue and unfortunately jetset wifes become very paranoid and fights at home surround a lot around this topic.
Many Lonesome Nights
* Get prepared to spend a lot of time on your own. If you think that a wealthy man will have a lot of free time on his hands, then reality check please. Do you think a man becomes rich by hanging around at home? Erm, no?
Even if he will be totally in love with you, he will always prioritize the big bucks. Sure he will say, “baby you’re my number one” and all that crap, but honestly you should prepare yourself for many lonesome evenings at home, not to mention when he is away on numerous business trips.
Being a millionaire is not a 9-5 job, it’s a 24/7 always on duty mode.
This will affect your relationship, it will test your relationship to bits and pieces. He will be constantly getting phone calls in the most uncomfortable situations, he will constantly be checking emails as his mind never really switches off from work and “sudden emergency work stuff” will be the reason of many cancellations of your plans together.
That’s the sad reality and that’s the acceptance that most jetset wifes have to take. If they want to live in wealth then the breadwinner will be gone a lot, working hard for their lifestyle. This is the law of nature, nothing comes for free, not even the good life.
If you’re planning on a big family life then really prepare yourself of raising the kids on your own, with very limited time all family together. You can still make it work, but it will rarely be as ideal as you’ve probably imagined it in your head as a little girl.
But yes, your life will be comfortable in other ways.
Money messes people up
* You might have fallen in love with someone who seems like the most amazing man in the world, but if he’s rich then there might be a lot of hidden secrets you should know about.
Being a millionaire is not an easy job, imagine yourself running a billion worth company(ies) with a heavy load of responsibility. This causes a lot of pressure and stress for the person, which in some cases results in abusive behavior like alcoholism, drug abuse etc. Of my own experience, alcohol & drugs are the most common “stress reliefs” for rich guys. It’s also fairly accepted in this world as lavish parties is a part of the scene.
If it’s not any abusive behavior there is often some darkness in the picture. A common one of my friends is the man thinking he is the boss because he is the breadwinner. He will like to influence you, in some cases control you, a powerful man will be acting with power in his private life. And not in a sexy way.
When you don’t have your own money, you have less power. Never forget that. So marrying someone who is rich, and you’re not will mean that you will always be the one that will have to surrender, who will be the follower never the leader.
Sure, every person is different, every relationship is unique. I’m talking about the most common rich men and the most common issues in these type of relationships. Take this with a pinch of salt, but most im portantly. Do a reality check while you’re riding those pink dollar clouds, thinking life will get sorted once you marry a rich man. Don’t believe everything you see.
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