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Making friends when you travel alone

23 March 2015

 

 

I’ve been in Thailand now 1 week and I need to share with you another evidence to why traveling on your own is not that daunting in terms of loneliness. 

So I woke up on Sunday in a sunny Phuket, knowing that I was completely new in a country and place I’ve never been to before. The feeling of “shit, I really don’t know not even a single person here” came upon me.

In Bali I made friends imediatly, and I didn’t have many days of just being on my own. So I kind of got used of being able to message people and have company, but now it was like I had to start from scratch again!

That sunday I felt a little bit of loneliess like the reality check really hit me, that there was absolutely no one here I could meet!

So I said “Fuck it” and got dressed, to go for a few drinks (on my own) to Nikki Beach.

 

 

So here is your evidence;

As soon as I walked in I asked my intution which bar to sit down at. “Left or right?”.

Intuition said “right”. I walked up to the bar and saw an empty chair next to 2 girls. I asked politely if It was free and sat down to order a Margarita. Then I asked where they were from and we got talking. And dancing. And exchanging numbers.

 

 

When they had to leave, another group of russians approached me. We started talking. Then one said that they were gonna go for sauna and massage, and that I could join because it was someones birthday. And rule number one; Always say YES if your intuition says so. Which it did, so I said, “Let’s go guys”. (They were a group of boys and girls)

So we went to this sauna, then we went for dinner, then we went to their villa, and then we just partied all night.

I woke up on their sofa like “Good morning my new friends, whats up” and we’ve been hanging out all of us ever since.

 

How to make friends when you travel alone

 

One of the girls in this russian group, is soooo cool! Love her! She is so much fun and I can’t stop laughing being around her.

We clicked so well, I actually moved in with her in her villa after just a few days of knowing each other. She was on her own anyway so might as well create a sorority club out of that place…

 

 

…And man have we’ve been having fun!

Proper “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun”- material!

We’ve been partying quite a lot, but also having bbq’s and pool sessions at the villa. Life is so great when you’re in the best company…

 

 

To summarize: Traveling on your own is great. I would not have been in this situation if I was traveling with someone. Just wouldn’t happen.

And if you’re an open person who sends out positive energy, then you attract people to yourself and you’re never lonely.

I love life and I’m happy life proved to me once more that I don’t need to be all control freak and fear being alone. Everything always resolve itself anyway, so why make such a fuzz about it? :)

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12 Responses to “Making friends when you travel alone”

  1. Anna Maria says:

    It’s great that you are having fun there))
    But I have questions according to your post, as I’m planning to visit Italy/south France alone this year I need your advice because I have one particular problem, even if I do know English when I meet someone I am so shy that everyone who tries to talk to me ends up thinking that I don’t speak English. So how can I overcome this fear of talking in foreign language (not only in English but also in Italian)? I am paranoid of the idea that people wouldn’t understand me or I disinterpret something. Any ideas?

  2. Would you post some of your own pics? Would love to see Thailand through your camera lens :-)

    Love Tanya

    http://www.tanyablackstar.co.uk/

  3. Hanna says:

    When will you finally reveal a photo of yourself?

  4. Smily says:

    I wonder what could you talk about with so many different people. I guess you don`t establish any kind of profound and real communication (and talk mostly of clothing, other russian women and jet-set places), cause it`s not possible for someone to click with everybody, exception if that someone has really conventional type of personality or doensn`t have well-defined one. I personally can communicate with all kinds of people but I just find it borring to mingle with everyone. I prefer surround myself with intelligent and funny people with mature vission for life and be a little more picky when it comes to who I surround myself to.

  5. Marvil says:

    Travelling alone is actually really great when one knows how to be alone, with his own thoughts and enjoy it. Here in your post when you talk about “being alone” you don`t actually mean alone and it really has nothing to do with traveling alone. :)

  6. NIASUN says:

    I think, I can say I was kinda close to leave the jetsetlife before, because I had many invitations for travelling, and I had some experiences which I accepted also, but never did for money, only for fun, and mostly with my girls.That time I can tell you I had completely no worries about anything… I mean to travel for foreign places, with foreign peoples…Nowadays I have worries…Im bit older( 25) and these things arent exciting for me anymore. Or I am more adult in thinking, I guess :) And after long times I was travelling alone a few month ago… I visited my friend in a neighbour country of my country. And I was going home by train alone… I had so much worries, panic attack etc… I didn’t like it… I felt so lost (usually I dont use public transport). But on the train there was a woman, who had the same nationality like me. So we were talking that 3-4 hours about everything, and my loneliness and bad feelings went away. :)

    And I also have a question for you, I am curious about your opinion. In the jetset life we see these girls with full of luxurious, good dresses, designer pieces..so we see the money. But as I go trough on the internet and instagram, I had an idea, if everything, what they have is AUTHENTIC? I can see sometimes on the pics some very poor quality products, and can imagine, that they spend the money for the very good 1:1 copies of Chanels, LVs, Tom Fords etc..
    What do you think?

    • Anonymous says:

      What does it matter? What does it mean AUTHENTIC, really? A thing is what it is. If it`s there, looks the same, you can touch it and etc… so it`s the same. Many times the only difference for the buyer is how much he pays. Both ways products are made in some poor country, explotating cheap labor like in India for example, or even China. Only the way of money and profit is different – in one case is much more and big part of it goes in the pocket of the inventor (and sometimes even that`s impossible – example the Chanel bag you buy paying profit to the live Karl Lagerfeld representing Chanel). So it`s so stupid for someone being slave to those things. What do you care if some part of the money you pay for something goes to certain label or not? If I can buy an Hermes bag for 500 instead of 20 000 dollars, I prefer the first. And YES, it`s authenthic – everything I can look, touch, smell, use it`s authentic and not imaginary. If I am so desperate to buy it for much more money than it means I don`t really like the item, but I am just slave to that label and live with the delusional thinking that wearing some stupid label makes me something more valuable as a person or that I just pretend to be some kind of big shot playing some role in front of the society.

    • Shelly says:

      What does it matter? What does it mean AUTHENTIC, really? A thing is what it is. If it`s there, looks the same, you can touch it and etc… so it`s the same. Many times the only difference for the buyer is how much he pays. Both ways products are made in some poor country, explotating cheap labor like in India for example, or even China. Only the way of money and profit is different – in one case is much more and big part of it goes in the pocket of the inventor (and sometimes even that`s impossible – example the Chanel bag you buy paying profit to the live Karl Lagerfeld representing Chanel). So it`s so stupid for someone being slave to those things. What do you care if some part of the money you pay for something goes to certain label or not? If I can buy an Hermes bag for 500 instead of 20 000 dollars, I prefer the first. And YES, it`s authenthic – everything I can look, touch, smell, use it`s authentic and not imaginary. If I am so desperate to buy it for much more money than it means I don`t really like the item, but I am just slave to that label and live with the delusional thinking that wearing some stupid label makes me something more valuable as a person or that I just pretend to be some kind of big shot playing some role in front of the society.

  7. Suze says:

    Niasun, umm.. 25? Older?
    Lol

  8. M L says:

    Your website is my favorite! Can you please do a piece on how the JSBs get such amazing tans? What products/spray tans/etc. they use? It’s getting warmer and I’m tired of being pale! Their tans all look so natural, how do they protect skin in the sun? Thank you so much!

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