Currently I’m travelling in Asia, and although I’ve “‘only” been away for 1 month, I’m already tired of all the travelling. Not trying to sound spoiled here, but this entire year I’ve been living in a suitcase mostly – and honestly – it gets to you after a while.
I’ve reached a point where I’ve stopped enjoying the destinations and travelling itself as I usually do. When someone become this numb, it’s time for a break in my opinion.
I really miss having a base and living a more normal life. I think I also need to have some form of stability in order to have my life in order.
At the moment I feel a little bit all over the place, with no set routines etc. Plus there are tons of things I want to get done, but being on the road is very distracting and hard to keep up with a discipline.
I’m still in Kuala Lumpur at the moment, and will be here for the rest of the week. Need to gather my mind and think things through properly. I do feel strongly of returning to London, because I think it’s the best decision in so many aspects. Plus I really miss my friends over there, and the city itself.
The only thing I’m dreading is the weather, but hopefully if I try and travel somewhere warm as often as I can, then the winter season won’t feel too painful. And anyway, winters in London are quite mild. The only annoying part is lack of sun at times and cold indoors! Everyone who ever lived in London knows exactly what I’m talking about. 😀
I have always been the type who wants to explore the world and be adventurous, but in my circle of friends while growing up I never had anyone who shared the same ambition.
My friends from school had different plans and couldn’t understand why I so badly wanted to leave the country and set myself free.
That became the reason why I decided to move on my own to Italy as soon as I finished high school. I gave up on the people around me and told myself I didn’t want to waste my best years just because nobody wanted to tag along and be adventurous.
So I took that step which to some 19 year old’s may feel daunting, but it went better than I ever expected.
I then learned an important lesson that would shape me for the rest of my life and that was going to be about independence.
After Italy I felt confident as I realised I didn’t need anyone to fulfil my plans. I felt strong enough to conquer the world alone and it didn’t feel scary anymore. The taste of freedom and the power of being able to do whatever I wanted, hooked me completely.
Although it sounds amazing being so independent I still wish I would have had a partner in crime,especially during the jet setting times.
Globetrotting together with your girlfriend is something I always envied other girls (in a positive way).
I never got the chance to move to a foreign country with my bestie, live together, travel together and just explore the jet set world as true partners in crime.
The jet set world can be quite tough, and having some form of genuine support would have made the journey a bit easier. Or at least I tell myself so.
The thing is I’ve always made really good friendships along the way. In every country I lived or visited there has always been some valuable & genuine connections.
But I guess I just miss of having that BFF experience when you live together and walk this path as a team.
On my path, I have been a constant “one man show” who always travel or move to a country alone.
Surely, I’ve never been that alone, but my friends have always been scattered a little bit everywhere, making the relationships not as consistent as It would have been if you actually live with someone – or hang out almost everyday.
That’s the kinda friendship I miss, even if it sounds a bit juvenile.
For this reason I know that “my time is soon running out” – if it’s not too late already – to ever have that experience.
This type of adventures with a bestie is something you do in your 20’s and I’m 1.5 years away from 30!
My focus will soon be on getting married and giving birth, not running around the world like a hooligan. Or who knows 😉
I learned how to become a very independent individual and maybe this strong trait of mine blocked opportunities of this kind.
But what I would like to say is, if you ever get the chance to have a partner in crime on this journey – then no doubt you should take it!
In the jet set world you’ll need all kinds of support because it can be a hell of a ride at times! Sharing it with a partner in crime will really help you on an emotional level. Plus someone to remember the crazy stories with when you grow older
It is of benefit to relocate to a jet set city if you want to become a successful Jet set Babe due to the wide range of opportunities. (You can read my post here about how it works to move to another country.)
But of course, not everyone want or is able to relocate.
You might live in a small town or a non happening city dreaming about the fun you see Jet set Babes are having.
You do not care about the dark sides I have written about before, you want to experience the jet set life on your own – yet you do not know where to start!
You have no contacts and no friends in the jet set world – what to do?
I do have a beginner strategy to share with you today, it’s a strategy I have noticed that seems to be working especially if you are new to the scene.
Some girls I have met throughout the years always say how they have made their best contacts when they are travelling – and I will agree on that one!
Let me present:
Work hard in Winter – Play in Summer.
Work really hard for 9-10 months at your day job, let’s say from September until May.
Live modest, save every penny and do extra hours if possible.
Unless you have a descent job of course with a descent salary where you can save yet live a normal lifestyle.
Strategy: Save up money so you can take 3 months off and travel to south of Europe in summer.
Quit your job if necessary, but make sure you will be able to find a new job without problems once summer is over. (I do not want to give advice to people who end up jobless and struggling. Quit only if you really know that the job market allows that and that you have a good cv to find a new job. September is also a hiring month so should not be a problem)
Your goal is to be able to not work, only travel from mid may until end of august on your savings.
You could decide to either pick 1 or 2 destinations where you would spend the entire summer, or you could travel to most of the hotspots where you know the fun would be at.
Your itinerary could look something like this if you decide to travel about:
You start mid may in Cannes for 2 weeks (film festival).
June you spend in Ibiza for all the opening parties.
July & August are very happening in St Tropez, Porto Cervo, Ibiza, Mykonos if you are travelling alone and want to meet new people. Cannes, Monaco, Amalfi coast, Capri, Santorini, Marbella etc are good picks too although I would not prioritise them.
So why this intense 3 month trip when you could be going for several normal holidays throughout the year, doing the same thing?
If you are new to the jet set world and want to get your foot in (while still living in that small town where nothing is happening) – then it is easier for you to gain contacts like this.
If you just tourist about for one week here, one week there plus a few weekend trips – it will not give you that opportunity to make contacts.
Contacts are key is you want to be a successful Jet set Babe!
The beauty with south of Europe in summer is that ALL international jet setters go there for vacation.
Even if you are based outside Europe, I would recommend to go to Europe rather than staying where you are.
As you start to mingle, getting to know people you will notice that the jet set world is actually not that big, and you will keep seeing the same people over and over again.
That is of benefit to you, because they will notice you too – and that is the way forward when you want to build your first connections.
For this reason it is advisable to do the entire summer season in Europe, because you will be in the middle of all the happenings and get the chance to spend more time with the people you meet, making deeper bonds!
It is a golden opportunity for networking!
Remember, doing it intensely is to gather momentum which is of interest especially if you are not connected from the start.
Your aim is to become connected so an intense crash course like this is to recommend!
Once summer is over you can go back to your small town, stay in touch with all the people you met on your trips and go visit them when opportunity arise.
Many Jet set Babes do like this even if they are not beginners anymore but are comfortable with having a home base and then simply travel back and forth.
If you are worried with regards to financing 3 months of travel like this – I would tell you to not worry.
Most important thing to cover is accommodation.
You might not afford staying 3 months in different hotels, but I would advice to find somewhere to rent through AirBnB or rent a room in someones house making it more affordable.
Although you should not fully rely on it, but there is always a chance that you will get to know people on your trip that will invite you to stay with them in villas, yachts etc making the costs for accommodation to go drastically down.
Other expenses like night life, food, transport etc is hard to estimate. Like mentioned above, you will get to know so many people who will be inviting you out, covering many of these expenses.
But you should always have a plan B, incase luck will not be on your side!
How much money to save up?
Try with at least € 3k and see how long it will take you. Again if you are lucky you might manage an entire summer on this money – or if you are less lucky you might have to go home after half the time.
If you want to play it safe then € 6k is something you will survive on incase luck is not on your side. But then again, it all depends on how you spend your money.
Im only considering basic living with nights out, simple accommodation and no extravagant shopping. The rest is up to you.
Keep in mind that South of Europe is expensive as it will be peak season, all prices will be high. But there are many ways around how to tourist on a shoestring even if you are an aspiring Jet set Babe (which does not include any foul play 😉 )