Finally Saturday! During this entire week I’ve been an emotional Duracell bunny, fighting battles with all those feelings that started to evoke since I got interested in this guy. (tell you later)
Unfortunately my “problem” is that I’m naturally a very emotional character,
so when applying strong emotions like love – It becomes a little bit too much for me to handle. Inside me starts this heavy roller coaster ride of tornado like emotions going crazy and pretty much all over the place. I have NO control what so ever.
I therefor become a little bit of a freak, and although it’s a constant battle of keeping everything under control (I fail miserably each time of course) – everything turns out to become a whole big mess of suffering for myself instead of enjoying the ride & playing it cool.
This is the reason why I don’t enjoy dating, because it brings too much emotional stress for me I rather avoid. And forget playing games, that’s emotional suicide for me!
Recently I started getting enough of this situation as It feels like a handicap to be honest with you. There was a time when I thought I had borderline because of this, but since this was the only symptom, I understood that some people are just born being more in tune with their emotional energy and some people never properly learned how to deal with it.
I’m clearly one of those people.
The new quest for myself became to learn how to deal with my emotional self. And although I’ve just started practicing it, I have a few good tips to share with you if you also have this same issue:
Don’t try to suppress your emotions
Blocking emotions, suffocating them etc IS NOT the way forward when you wish to control whats going on inside you. This really just make everything 100x worse, as blocked emotional energy does not just disappear – it is actual “real energy” within us that has to end up somewhere. Usually it turns itself in to negative energy/physical pain/sickness or it goes down the self destruction road. (The last one has been my cup of tea)
Find a healthy way to release emotional load
Men are recommended to sport (gym) on a daily basis to release the necessary amount of testosterone they have in order to stay balanced. The same principle applies for people with a lot of emotional energy.
It may however not necessarily be about sports, but it can for example be a creative activity. Usually very creative people have an overload of emotional energy and that’s simply their gift to be used in their creativity.
Find something that let’s you express yourself naturally and unload that heavy pile of energy. For me it’s dancing & writing. For other people it can be painting, singing, acting etc. Even other “less creative” hobbies count as it’s all about when you feel in contact with your emotional self and actually feel a release happening. (Netflix does not count).
Do this on a regular basis to keep an emotional balance within yourself. You will feel the difference even if you so just do it once a week!
Yes, I’m gonna be boring and pull out the meditation card – but oh my has meditation changed my life to the better! Before I could suffer from panic attacks or other heavy emotional blow outs, but I haven’t had any of them since I started meditating. If I feel for instance a heavy shit storm coming, I simply sit down to meditate before it even hits me, to ground and center myself.
It works each time. I used this technique through out an entire break up process actually which worked great! When feeling the sadness or separation anxiety coming I sat down to meditate and stabilize everything making me feel perfectly fine after.
Besides making yourself more grounded and centered, what you do in meditation is simply observing but not reacting to whatever emotion that is paying you a visit. As you disassociate your self from these emotions, you understand that you’re not bound to them. When they come for a visit you actually have a choice to let them in to your house or simply not opening the door.
By not opening the door, just observing them as they knock on it – you will notice they will leave after a little while. This is the law of universe, nothing lasts forever. Even feelings depart – “this too shall pass” but your job is not to react.
Please notice, meditation does take practice so don’t give up. But if you can try and get in to it you will really benefit in the long run!
As this is a very important topic for me, I will be continuing my research in how to go about this emotional roller coaster. If you recognize yourself in this please share or if you have any questions I’m always happy to help.